Another quality that should be reflected in a father is faithfulness. Fidelity is manifested in the fact that we communicate with our children, we come to each other, look at each other and let our children know that “I will always look out for you”, I will always think about you. You will never bother me, and I will never be agitated by your falls. However, to never be bothered by their falls, we teach them to get up. We as a father should never give up. Our children should have faith that regardless of where they are, we are thinking of them, we are praying for them and we should be keen on their spirit. That is fidelity.
In Fidelity, we should build each other up and encourage each other. Though a biblical lens, our family is our primary circle of friends, thus we are to commission our family to live the life of a Kingdom Minded Jesus follower and create a legacy as Joseph did. We are to not only believe but walk out God’s plan for us, while teaching our children to learn the plan God has entailed for them, by knowing God. We should exemplify God’s love in our family, whereas they will have no doubt that if God is greater than His love is Greater. Why does God let us make mistakes, and allows us to get up, while the common trend is to condemn each other?
Moreover, many concentrate on wives submitting to their husbands. However, the same lot also fails to read on… “ Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.” It is evident that Paul teaches that a husband will learn to be Christlike by giving himself up for her. A wife then will step in tho her essential mission for which she was created while learning the love of Christ.
Likewise, we as fathers, are not to exasperate our children; instead, we are to bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.
For he established a testimony in Jacob, and appointed a law in Israel, which he commanded our fathers, that they should make them known to their children:
That the generation to come might know them, even the children which should be born; who should arise and declare them to their children:
That they might set their hope in God, and not forget the works of God, but keep his commandments:
And might not be as their fathers, a stubborn and rebellious generation; a generation that set not their heart aright, and whose spirit was not stedfast with God
A great example, teach your children, engage them, in this, they will pass your teaching to their children. Not as our fathers, who were set in their ways, but as ambassadors of God, a loving Father. Our sons are the next generation of fathers, leaders, disciples and warriors. They too shall grow up and become self-sufficient. But will they be prepared? Will they walk in understanding of fidelity, or will they carry the scars of deprived love of a father. Joseph learned to overcome destruction by trusting God, surrendering to him and remaining obedient to him. Few children learn this today, thus let us get moving in breaking generational scars. It is important for children to know, they can fall and we teach them to get up. It is important for them to know, regardless of our views, we are there for them, and by having their trust in us, they will surrender to our authority, as long as they know, we are always there for them.
Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.
And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord’s people.